Sudhir’s Story

Sudhir D, “It helps pull you out of the darkness and back into the light.”

Three days after Sudhir’s little brother Shiloh was born, Sudhir got permission to hold him. Sudhir remembers the little boy hugging him back.

The next day, Shilohdied due to health complications.

Sudhir and his baby brother Shilon

 Sudhir remembers talking with his parents before the first time they went to the Children’s Grief Center. If it helped, his parents said, they would keep going there.

The center gave the family tools to heal, and they returned again and again.

“At the time of my brother’s death I didn’t really have a full understanding of it,” says Sudhir, who was in fourth grade when his brother died. “The Children’s Grief Center helps you understand the loss and how to get over it. It’s a community that helps you in your darkest times. It helps pull you out of the darkness and back into the light.”

Activities like throwing water balloons against the wall, painting, and journaling about his loss helped Sudhir understand and come to terms with it. He remembers gluing a broken clay pot back together in one activity at the CGC.

“I’m pretty sure it symbolized after you lose a loved one, your heart may be broken, but you have to find room in your heart to continue to love them. Even though your heart may be broken, it can be put back together,” Sudhir said.

Holding Shiloh gave Sudhir his first experience with having a sibling, and it made him want to have a sibling even more.

“Now I have a sister who I love very much,” Sudhir said. “Without Shiloh, I wouldn’t have known how to be as gentle when you hold a baby.”

Now 13 and in eighth grade, Sudhir is part of his school’s equity council.

“I think it would be a wonderful first job for people who have experienced loss,” Sudhir says of the Children’s Grief Center. “I’m hoping once I’m old enough I would love to volunteer.”

Family Trip to Santa Cruz Lake

“At the time of my brother’s death I didn’t really have a full understanding of it,” says 13-year-old Sudhir D, who was in fourth grade when his baby brother died. “The Children’s Grief Center helps you understand the loss and how to get over it. It’s a community that helps you in your darkest times. It helps pull you out of the darkness and back into the light.”

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